Sunday, May 20, 2007
Why Choose Couples Counseling?
Couples inevitably reach difficult periods where it may seem they are needlessly stuck. "If only my partner could ....." is a ubiquitous feeling. And while most of us know that we can only change ourselves, it is sometimes irresistibly tempting to believe that we can fix the other.
Gridlock frequently requires challenging our illusions about what we can or cannot accept about ourselves and our partners. It can be disheartening to realize that some dynamics are unlikely to change. Although conflict is inevitable and necessary, it is almost certainly an opportunity for us to grow beyond our current capacity and to broaden our perspective.
Learning how to tolerate anxiety better -- especially when our partner is having trouble with their own -- will increase our own maturity and capacity for connection. Holding onto one's own integrity is ultimately what is needed for a more vital, passionate and intimate relationship with one's partner. And sexual desire flows much more readily between two adults with self-respect.
Gridlock frequently requires challenging our illusions about what we can or cannot accept about ourselves and our partners. It can be disheartening to realize that some dynamics are unlikely to change. Although conflict is inevitable and necessary, it is almost certainly an opportunity for us to grow beyond our current capacity and to broaden our perspective.
Learning how to tolerate anxiety better -- especially when our partner is having trouble with their own -- will increase our own maturity and capacity for connection. Holding onto one's own integrity is ultimately what is needed for a more vital, passionate and intimate relationship with one's partner. And sexual desire flows much more readily between two adults with self-respect.
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